- Accept that pain will come your way. The more you pretend that pain is not there, the worse it will get.
- Write down a scenario in which you imagine coping well.
- Let go of what you can not control. Stop doing what you can not do.
- Rehearse acting according to your values and believing you did the best you could despite the circumstances.
- Don’t avoid doing things that are a little bit hard just because you are suffering; approach tasks that give you a sense of accomplishment.
- Increase your connections with other people. Pain allows us to be vulnerable, soften our stance, and let others in. Bearing pain is easier when we are not alone.
- Find people in your life and express appreciation to them openly.
- Are your actions effective? Do what is needed to get through the situation. Don’t do something that will make it worse.
- Assume that you are not the only one who is suffering.
- Contribute, help out, help others solve their problems; find ways to make other people’s lives easier.
- Do one thing to nourish your body and your soul.
- Write yourself a compassionate letter in which you acknowledge the pain and difficulties you are facing.
- Find one thing someone else can do to lighten your load and see if they would be willing to do it.
- Find three things a day that you are grateful for and share them with someone else.
- Stop comparing, judging, or evaluating your emotions.