- Be reminded on some gut level of why you want or need to change
- Avoid everything related to changing
- Consider those who have changed
- Compare yourself to those whose lives are different
- Attack yourself for not changing
- Start to take the first step towards change
- Become overwhelmed
- Wallow a bit
- Consider the benefits of change
- Get motivated or inspired by others whose lives are different
- Be reminded on some gut level of how things are miserable for you now
- Ask for help
- Experience a sense of efficacy or encouragement
- Experience a setback or discouragement
- Try again
- Become overwhelmed
- Avoid people and places reminding you of change, at least for a while
- Give up
- Try again
- Get reminded of how miserable you are
- Approach everything that you’ve tried to avoid
- Get overwhelmed
- Take a small step and stick with it
- Notice the pros and cons of the small step
- Rant and rave to other people in your life about how things aren’t working
- Try to get help again
- Get motivated, take another step.
Don’t kid yourself.
This is hard work.
We’ve all been there!